Question from a Site Viewer
Is God listening to my prayers? I want to get married!
My family and I are looking for a husband for me and have been for some time. I want to get married. My family wants me to get married. We have been searching. We have found potential suitors; they have come but they have all rejected me. Why won’t God answer my prayers?
Your culture sounds far different than the one in which I live. In my culture, the family does not find spouses for their children. Rather, young people meet each other in various forums (schools, churches, community centers, work places, parties, etc.) and begin to date and then decide for themselves whether to get married or not. This system works for most but there are a significant number of people in my culture who never find a spouse and never get married.
I do not have advice on how you can find or attract a husband. But I can let you know that by praying to God you are doing the right thing. I can also tell you that focusing your life on finding a husband ultimately will not bring you happiness. Happiness comes from focusing on Christ and seeking to be a blessing to God and to others. This does not at all detract from the desire to be married. Rather, it helps to put it in perspective. There is more to life than being married. In my culture, many people who get married ultimately find that they do not like their marriage and they get divorced. Of course, this is not pleasing to God. It is better to be single than to be married and have a bad spouse and then want out of the marriage.
I encourage you not to focus on the fact that you do not yet have a husband, but rather focus on trying to be the best person you can be before God and before your family. Study the Bible. Pray. Focus life not on what you want, but on helping others. The things that you want — your deepest desires — take them to God and tell Him about them, but then let Him know that ultimately you want what He wants for you. Then, leave your desires with God and go and and serve people. Learn to develop that meek and quiet spirit which in the sight of God is very precious. Learn to be a blessing to all. In doing so, you will become a jewel both in the sight of God and in the sight of those in your community. And you will find that your life is full and rich. As you do these things and pursue Christ, you might just be surprised what He will provide for you.
If it is any help for you, I have known many women who have never been married. God has used some single women in very powerful ways. Nevertheless, I believe marriage is a good thing and it is right to desire to be married and it is right to ask God for a good spouse. Just do not let your desire for marriage keep you from being the best person you can be before God and others.
My prayers are with you.