Question from a Site Viewer
Is anything off limits sexually for my wife and I?
You ask whether anything is off limits sexually between you and your wife. The answer is yes. Anything done that is not done to serve and please your spouse is off limits. You have a responsibility before God to honor and seek to please your wife (1 Corinthians 7:33, 1 Peter 3:7). Any sexual activity that demeans, hurts, embarrasses, causes emotional distress, or is done through coercion, intimidation, or against the will of your spouse would be wrong in the sight of God. Any sexual activity that both you and your spouse are jointly delighted in is good and right before God. In fact, in Hebrews 13:4, the Scripture writer uses the term “undefiled” to describe sexual relations between spouses in a marriage.
So I would encourage you to think of the wishes and desires of your spouse in your sexual activities, seeking to honor and please her. This is one of the things that grows love in a marriage.
May the Lord give you wisdom in this.
A fellow pilgrim,